My next challenge is thinking in the now. I can easily say to myself I want to lose weight or I want to be a certain weight or size by a certain date. However according to the Secret, you have to think you have it all now or you’ll forever be in the realm of trying and wanting.
So I have to say, think and feel that I’m already at the weight I want to be or already have the great relationship I’ve been dreaming of. How do you do that without feeling silly or delusional? If your goal is to be married to a wonderful husband, how do you actively feel that way and tell yourself that you already have it and thank the Lord for it? If you see an outfit in a size 6 and you are a size 10 do you get the size 6 because that’s your goal size and the size you tell yourself you are? Seriously how does that work right?
So after reading the chapter on relationships (which I think was way too short and in need of more detail). I discovered that to get the relationship/marriage you desire, you don’t walk around like a crazy person talking about your imaginary Larry boyfriend. You have to be in a loving state of mind. Prepare your life to have room for love (so I guess my collection of stuffed animals on display wouldn’t fly if I was living with a guy so I suppose I shouldn’t keep them propped up- this is an example of course, I really don’t have a pile of stuffed animals I can’t part with…).
Do the things you love to do (and no, saying well I don’t love work so I won’t go, doesn’t work- find something you love about it, like, er, getting paid!).
Think of things and people that you love and of course make sure you love yoself.
And within all this love fest you will, ta-da, attract more love. Because, and it’s taking a moment to click with me, the Secret is all about The Law of Attraction. Everything you say/think/do will act like a magnet to attract more of it. If you call yourself a klutz, low and behold, you will keep being in situations where you trip and knock things over. If you believe you are a great singer then you will find that people around you will think (or at least tell) you are (this explains the people who end up on American Idol auditions sounding a hot mess, no one around them told them they sound like a dying cat).
So don’t just pretend, be it. Or in Yoda’s words “Do or do not, there is no try” or something like that.
So after a car accident yesterday in which my NEW car is now in the shop. I decided its time I start taking these teachings of the Secret seriously. The lessons clearly stated that I should not just let life happen to me but to instead have control over my day. Wake up with a positive mood, give thanks, plan/visualize your day.
I didn’t do that yesterday but I made sure before I went to sleep I didn’t dwell on the accident or think of yesterday as a negative day. I focused on the good of the day before I went to sleep (day off, got some reading in, cooked, worked out, got some errands done after I got my rental, napped, wrote a blog post and worked on my writing- basically I got an extra day to accomplish things). Right after the accident I was feeling myself getting stressed and tearful but I parked my beat down car, went in my house, made an appointment for the body shop and a rental and proceeded to read some of The Secret until my appointment. I must say my sadness and stress about the situation dissipated and has not returned. I feel like I can handle this and the fiance of it all won’t prevent me from doing what I want to do (I have some trips planned and I still feel positive that I will still be able to go).
This morning I visualized my day down to the smaller things: go to work with no accidents, not be annoyed by anything at work, go home and work on my writing, workout. Then from the time my feet hit the floor through washing up I gave thanks for all the things I’m blessed for.
How’d my day go? No accident, in fact, got to work early. Not annoyed at work, day went pretty quickly. Working on my writing now as I wait for a friend to go workout!
Hmm, next up. Car shop told me I’d get my car back between Friday and Monday. But I’m thinking Thursday after work I’m getting my car back. If anyone ask that’s what I’m saying. That’s what I believe…
So a wiser higher up gave me a list of books to read to help lead me to successful leadership. She told me I had to read the list of 10 books in the order she listed them (not sure why yet). The first being the ever popular The Secret. Of course I’d heard of this concept before but being cynical as usual I thought it was a bunch of crap. Positive thinking and you’ll just get what you want? Yeah right. Bad things happen because you allow it? Sounds cold to me.
But as I read the book, I can’t help but think, some of this stuff sounds good. And, hey, what can it hurt if I go all in and give it a try?
Halfway into the book I’ve learned these tips so far:
- Think about what you do want , not what you don’t want (ex. I want to lose weight vs. I want to be a size six, the latter is best because it is more exact, the former will just keep you in the loop of wanting to lose weight)
- Think of the things you are grateful for (focus on your health instead of not liking your shape)
- Think as though you already have it and really have the feeling that comes with it
- Ask for what you want and believe it will come (like ordering some shoes on line, you believe they will come, you don’t call the store every day to ask them is it coming)
- Say Thank you every day as often as you can, start your day with it
- Create your day don’t let your day create you, think in the morning how you want your day to go and if something negative happens, think of it in a different light before going to bed to “reset” your mind for the next day (in other words avoid starting a day with negative energy)
- Visualize what you want ( a vision board helps)
So from time to time, I will post about my journey following the secret. For a “realist” like me, it’ll be tough but I’m ready to give it a try.